Nevertheless, I recently watched Leslye Headland's movie version of her own play, Bachelorette (2012), and absolutely loved it. I almost have to say that in hushed tones, because it feels like a guilty pleasure—but the film was funny, well-paced, and did a nice job of creating both intimacy and distance among the friends in each frame of the film. (I mean, look at those girls, getting all chummy on that bench there. Doesn't that scream "bridesmaids-4-eva!" to you?)
As for my fictitious bachelorette party, I'll take some good food, some good drinks, and some of my closest friends—including my ball-and-chain-to-be. Now isn't that my idea of a good time.
Getting tied down isn't a bad thing, but you're life definitely becomes partner-centric at some point. For many people that point is marriage, though it doesn't necessarily have to be. But once you are really committed and you have to attend family functions for both halves and have your couple time and etc. your time with friends inevitably decreases. So one big party with friends is a good thing. With any good relationship it won't be the last huzzah, just a good occasion to celebrate in a way that will be harder to do in the future.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you! I'm just confused why that "last" big party with friends has to involve strippers and heavy drinking. If I did that, I wouldn't even remember what I talked about with my friends the next morning...
DeleteWell much like marriage, where's it's not about you...it's about your partner, your family, etc. A Bachelor/Bachelorette party is an excuse for your friends to go crazy. I told my buddies that I didn't want to have one, that my life in Japan up to getting married was ALREADY one big bender...they said that I was being selfish, that it wasn't about me...it was about THEM ;p
ReplyDeleteI like how our friends being unable to go crazy is because we are being selfish...but I sure hope that those friends are now being equally selfless in return by organizing and inviting you to kid-friendly events. :) BTW, did you read that great Seth Adam Smith piece on marriage?
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